When we fall in love, we want it to last, we dream of a beautiful relationship with this person and we begin to do everything necessary to make the relationship work. However, as times goes on, things change. The relationship we thought would last forever begin to capsize, feelings fizzling away, we are soon left with an empty shell in scattered pieces. This makes us dismayed and broken, the idea of a blissful relationship becomes illusory to us. We remember the wasted efforts and swear never to make such efforts again.
Interestedly, what most do not know is that the things we do too much in a relationship might be what ends that relationship.
So today, I would share with you two powerful things you must do if you want a blissful long lasting relationship.
- Never discard your family or friendships because you are in a relationship; while building a relationship, never discard your family or friends or become too busy for them. Everyone in your life plays an important role, your partner cannot be everything to you, he cannot play all the roles in your life, hence he gets worn out and will certainly seek a way out. You lose the respect and regard he had for you because he sees you as a burden, one that he should get rid of. Don’t let that happen because your relationship will eventually suffer.
- Do not lose your individuality; your identity is very much important in life. Never lose yourself or allow a relationship rid you off your individuality. Don’t forgo your goals in life, don’t forget you have a unique purpose to fulfil. Don’t abandon your life and start to live the life of your partner, you will always work overtime to maintain that relationship because that’s the only thing you have got, the relationship! Your efforts would of course not be appreciated because no one values anybody that lack self respect and your partner isn’t any different, he’s a human being. Resentment would eventually set in because you feel less appreciated despite the enormous sacrifices, you feel used and unhappy in that relationship. How then can an unhappy person make anyone happy?
Relationship is partnership. it doesn’t mean you won’t have an identity anymore, it simply means you have someone to work with, someone to do life together with forever. No one should abdicate her life for another, this doesn’t mean you wouldn’t compromise for your relationship to work because no relationship can work without compromise.
Keep in mind that no one can fulfil all our desires; they ain’t God! Most importantly, you can have a sense of self and also be a great partner.
How inspiring